Finding peace in chaos
Relationships can cause conflict and unhappiness, as well as joy and fulfilment, especially when they involve the people we are closest with. Some sudden event occurs or it can be a situation that has gone on for a long time. It can feel overwhelming to cope with or change on your own. It also takes courage to seek help.
In therapy you are not alone – you come to share with a neutral, supportive outsider something that you may not have been able to talk about with your family or circle of friends – with total confidentiality and without being judged. I will provide an entirely confidential environment where you will be listened to and not be judged.
Changing relationships and feelings
Relationships and feelings change through time and life events. It can feel overwhelming to face new challenges and impossible to talk about them.
Relocation to a new country is especially unsettling and has consequences for relationships. You might both be new to Denmark, or one of you is a Dane and the other non-Dane. Either way it often brings unforeseen pressures into your lives and relationship and can leave you wondering what it is that feels so different between you.
In counselling and psychotherapy we look at patterns in your relationships. You might be repeating old patterns based on memories from the past. You might be feeling stuck.
I will work with you to understand what is happening, to find out what is important to each of you and what you need from the relationship. I will support you both in feeling heard by the other, in communicating with each other so that you will feel listened to and better understood. Counselling is a supportive place to explore your choices in moving forward.
We will also identify positive aspects in your relationship to help you build on those. Sometimes it may be sufficient to address the communication patterns, at other times you might feel very distant from your partner and need help to find each other again.
Sometimes you may need help to end the relationship. People often seek relationship therapy when is it too late for change. I urge you to seek help as early as possible.